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30 days, 30 ways...Day 5 (and Deep Conditioning on the go)

This is a bit of a 2-for-1. A little bit of entertainment, a little bit of Kinky Hair 101.

Sunday was (a VERY public...but more on that later) wash day. I've talked about how I like to deep condition for hours at a time, but believe me, this doesn't mean I'm sitting at home or in a hairdressers under a steamer for 8 hours. I apply my deep conditioner, cover with plastic cap (well, these days its cling film or a Shoprite plastic bag, as everyone on Sunday seemed to find amusing), wrap whatever piece of cloth I can find around my head as artistically as possible, and go about my merry way.

I'll have clearer pictures when I do my post talking more about the day, but here's one for now:



Towards the end, I undid the front and tied it a different way to demonstrate versatility. Here's a shot of the back (with clingfilm shining through!):



I find this especially useful if I am working out (in which case I would just tie a simple head scarf), as the body heat from exercising speeds up the conditioning effect, and acts as an on-the-move steamer.

For headwrap and turban ideas, head to Turbanista.

Stiffer materials like Ankara tend to yield much better results, but I was in a pinch, and this black cotton shawl was all I had to hand that day.

If you're just wearing a turban for aesthetic purposes, and don't have plastic protecting your conditioner-laden hair, it is a good idea to tie a small silk or satin scarf underneath, or wear a satin bonnet, so that your hair is protected from the drying effects of the turban/headwrap material.

Day 6 coming up!

Addendum: Spurred on by Curious Kinks' comment below, I realise I should point out that, as with everything, deep conditioning for long periods does not work for everybody. Some people mention getting headaches, especially if deep-conditioning overnight. People can also end up with over-conditioned or "mushy" hair. So again, it is all about figuring out what works for you and what doesn't.

30 days, 30 ways... Day 4

I'm still going strong on my styling challenge, my main problem being uploading pictures, but I will get them all on.

On day 4, my twistout had shrunken and lost most of its definition, so I decided to pull it into a bun.

I do high buns quite often, but try to vary them with accessories.

This time I tied a long rectangular scarf round my edges, knotted it at the front, twisted the ends together and then rolled them round into a sort of rosette and tucked the end in to secure it, as inspired by Geri, from Geraldine The Great. You need to check out her blog and her AMAZING hair! (And yup, she's Nigerian too)







I probably should have tidied up my edges, but I couldn't be bothered, to be fair.

I'll post Day 5 up later today, and today's as soon as I've had a chance to take pictures.

Have a good week!


30 days, 30 ways... Day 3

2nd day of twistout, fluffy from humidity, but still a lot of definition (the original twists were done wet, but I was still quite surprised because I hadn't used anything with much hold).

Sideswept and accessorised with a flower.






PS: If I am to complete this challenge with any semblance of success, someone really has to teach me how to take pictures of my hair. I've tried on camera, phone, laptop. All nonsense. I can never get the angles right and nothing really captures what the hair really looks like. Any tips would be most welcome!


30 days, 30 ways... Day 2

I was all set to try some sort of updo, but took down my twists, looked at that definition, and loved it so much that I couldn't bring myself to do anything to it. Not even twist or pin the front.






I normally just grab sections and twist, but this time decided to brush each section first, hence the smoothness and definition.

Day 3 coming up. Uploading the pictures just takes SO long!

Natural hair in Nigeria... Meet Lola!

Hi Peeps, I'll be posting my styles from yesterday and today as soon as I've had a chance to upload the pictures. In the meantime, I still have all the other regular blog features to post.


So here's this week's Nigerian naturalista, my beautiful cousin Lola.


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I realised recently that most of my family - my sister-in-law, her sister and all my cousins but one who recently fell off the wagon in a fit of delirium (naming and shaming, Funke. Naming and shaming! Just kidding, love you really) - are natural, and most have been for a while. I like to think that it is in no small part due to me (oh, I'm so modest).


Of course, this gives me a huge pool of people to feature in this series, and we'll start with Lola, biggest Kinky Apothecary supporter and almost as obsessed with hair as I am.


Here's her journey so far:


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My name is Lola, My friends call me Flo. 9-5 I work in corporate travel, every other breathing moment, I write poetry and make art. I love animals, horses and dogs especially.

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I am NIGERIAN! A cultural hybrid of sorts, haha. Born in Lagos, but grew up in London, and spent many of my formative years in Hertfordshire. I moved back to Lagos just over 3 years ago. and love it here- despite a lot of madness.

Why I went natural
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I've been Natural since I was about 15 or 16. My mother sent me to boarding school with relaxed hair and I came home with it shaved off and new growth sprouting. It was usually covered in braids so she didn't notice for a little while. My elder sister went natural first, she used to rock a bright red TWA. We always used to giggle at her hair permanently dying our cream leather sofas with splodgy circles of pink!

I have two sisters, and Mum used to relax all our hair. I hated it- it burnt, smelled and turned my hair brittle and brown! My hair isn't the thickest or the strongest so the chemicals really were bad for it. The limper it looked the limper I felt. So I went natural. Getting my curls back liberated me and made me feel more bold. I looked more like "me", not trying to fit in or mimic all my caucasian friends with straight light hair that waved in the breeze- mine was kinky and coily and bounced as I moved.


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My natural hair in Nigeria
Before I moved back to Nigeria, I had absolutely NO idea about how to take care of my hair. I'd buy all sorts of "Afro friendly" products loaded with junk, drag a fine toothed comb through from the roots, lop bits off indiscriminately and pay extortionate amounts to clueless hairdressers. But when I did have my hair out, people thought it was cute or kitsch so I felt encoraged. 

Back in Nigeria, inspired by The Kinky Apothecary and other Naturalistas and Kinksters, I have a much better idea of how to take care of my hair and it's flourishing. Public opinion on natural hair is.... somewhat different here though.





How other people view my hair
Haha! One of my extended family members never tires of telling me "relaxer was invented for a reason". Some people get it, and appreciate me and my hair- some people don't. 

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Usually at work, I'm fine as long as my hair is plaited, twisted or up-done neatly. People tend to wince when I'm in full fro mode. Most often on a Monday morning when 'amebo' and nosey co-workers are fresh form their own salon torture they assault me with questions on when I'm going to "fix my hair" and don't find it funny when I reply that ... I don't think it's broken....


Before I went natural, I thought...
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...It looked like a heckuva lot of work! 
...That natural indigenous Africans and Nigerians did not have manageable hair that coiled instead of knotted unless they were mixed race. 
...That for natural hair to be manipulated, it needed to be drenched in oil and hair creams- seen the jerry-curl jenks family in "Coming to America"? I was petrified of being seen in public with a greasy oil spot halo.

When I did the big chop...
At first I was relieved. Then I was nervous wondering how long it would take my mother to notice.... 
It was more of a subtle transition than a big chop. I rocked afro kinky extensions for so long that by the time my natural hair was long enough to let out, she was used to seeing kinks and curls. Phew!



My “natural hair journey” 
I have definitely fully accepted my natural hair- and I have the most wonderful supportive cousin who has my back/ curls at every turn! 

I love my hair. I really do. I don't have aspirations of super long hair that reaches my bottom, but I do want healthy luscious soft hair that's a cute and manageable length.

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I am sooooo lazy with my regimen, I must do better! I aim to wash once a week (sometimes I go to 2 weeks).

Every two washes I deep condition, this could be anything from a mix of my favorite products or a blend of banana, avocado, lavender and coconut/ palm oil depending on what my hair needs (or what I've got in my fridge that's about to go off!). If I've twisted my hair away in a funky, yet protective, style or wrapped it up in braids, I'll spray it daily (ok, ok, whenever I remember and I'm not rushing off to work) with a mix of bottled water, leave in conditioner and melted shea butter. I learnt how to make banana oil and banana water  from cleaning boiling and cooling banana skins (lots of these in the freezer thanks to my 3 year old nephew Josh) so I use that too- it has a lovely yummy smell.

The natural hair scene in Nigeria
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The Natural hair scene in Nigeria has definately hit a "tipping point"! There are more and more of us running around everyday! It seems that the Kinky Apothecary and co have inspired people to be bold and show what they've grown! There were so few at first, and the whole "educated and cultured ladies have straight hair" society mentality now seems to be falling by the wayside. 


Kinksters are inspiring and emboldening each other. I have a friend whom up until last week I had NEVER seen without a full weave. Both her and her sister keep commenting on my hair and how much they love it (and keep trying to touch it). I bumped into her last week- in full fro mode accessorised with an adorable scarf! She said she's been natural for years- didn't  see the need to relax her hair with a full weave, but never felt bold enough to "show her hair in public in that natural state". Not bold enough, until recently.


Natural in Nigeria vs the world
There is most DEFINITELY a difference between being natural in Nigeria and other places I've lived, worked and visited- but it's more to do with the Nigerian mentality and lack of "boundaries"! Nigerians are very willing to foist their own personal opinions on you. It's not always just about my natural hair, people tell me what they think of the way I dress, about my weight- lack of weight or weight gain- marital status, accent and just about anything else that pops into their head. In England people are a lot more.... polite with their opinions and accepting of things that may not necessarily be the norm. 


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Thanks Flo for doing this without too many threats. I'll send you the N5k later for name-checking us! :)